“Neba count toe in front ah de man wid nine toe”
Always act with discretion – Be sensitive
The definition of sensitive is “to be susceptible to the feelings, attitude and circumstances of others.”
Some people are more sensitive than others. Unless you know how someone feels deep down inside, how will you be aware of their sensitivity? The easiest way to be sensitive is not to do or say anything, that you wouldn’t like to be done or said to you.
Don’t mock others
During one of my lessons I encouraged the students to take part in a group activity which involved reading. One of them struggled with reading. When it came to his turn to read, he hesitated. After much encouragement, he decided to read aloud in front of the class. He read well but was a bit slow. One of the others became impatient and mocked him by calling him ‘stupid.’
That insensitive remark upset the student and made him go back into his shell. It also reversed the progress that I’d made with him. Following that incident, we had a class discussion about treating each other the way they’d like to be treated. I also told them that I wouldn’t tolerate any type of name-calling in my classroom. Also, they should always be sensitive to other people’s feelings.
Be sensitive and careful about what you say
My youngest daughter is extremely sensitive. I’ve learned to think about what I’m going to say to her before I say it. It wasn’t always like that though. But I’ve developed an awareness of her feelings. Her sensitivity is a result of traumas that she experienced at a young age.
When I tell her she’s lazy she gets upset, even if I say it jokingly. One day I went into her room and it was untidy, as usual. I told her to sort it out. I then commented that most teenagers are lazy, and she wasn’t any different. I didn’t mean to hurt her feelings. Anyway she became upset. That comment turned into an argument.
Are you quick to judge others by the way they look or act? When I came to live in the UK I was a quiet, skinny, long-legged teenager. I didn’t think I was pretty. To add to my sensitivity I had a strong Jamaican accent. I was always teased at school. Those girls had no idea how their words added to the negative feelings I had about myself. It took years for me to love and accept myself as I am.
Whether you’re sensitive or not, think about the sensitivity of others. Don’t speak or act irrationally. Your actions could hurt their feelings.
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